But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist , to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Q: Often, when I'm on the edge of orgasm , I'll feel overwhelmed, and will need to pause.
If you're not trying to get pregnant, then reaching climax is typically the end goal of sex for both parties. Which makes sense! But even this mindset, egalitarian as it may seem, comes with its own set of problems. On the one hand, focusing so intently on the, uh, "destination" can often mean forgetting to enjoy the journey.
Why Your Orgasm Is MIA—And Exactly What To Do About It
Orgasms are not one-size-fits-all. What works for one woman won't work for everyone and what worked for you with one partner might not work with another. Here's the scenario.